Friday, January 25, 2008

Does She Really Love You?

Did you hear that? She just said: "I love you." If you live in the 18th century, you could have slapped the rusticated walls with joy. You could have been jumping all day and has gathered all flowers in the prairie to offer her. You could have chased the moons and do all the impossibilities for that much awaited phrases said by millions of chivalrous men that lived and died for their beloved ladies. I love you.

It turned out that you involuntarily build up wrinkles in your young face when she mumbled it because it is the 21st century and all the greeting cards in the world is mechanically printed with "I love you/s" on it. Then you opened her card and find the phrases on it. Your girl is too verbal about the whole affair that all her friends know that she loves you as she says. The commodity is too cheaply spoken. You heard her saying it even to her poodle. With all the silence broken by benefit of doubts, now you wonder in your subconscious thinking: "Does she really love me?"

If you have this kind of thinking, then you will really have a hard time accepting love and getting it in return. Before you even ponder on the answer, better look in the mirror and recall if you always have these doubts in the past relationships you had. If not, then it's time to make a better and more scientific approach.

Are you diagnosed psychologically? Seriously, then this could justify why you cannot accept realities in its simple form. Otherwise, everything is environmental and can be dealt with.

Here are the signs that a person really loves you:

* ACTION SPEAKS LOUDER THAN WORDS:

Is she always there when you have dates? If not, does she leave you considerate words of excuse and make it easy for you by not letting you wait for an hour or so before even telling that she will not be coming. She treats you well by meeting halfway with what you both agree with. In other words, she will show it in her actions even without saying. You cannot expect someone saying, "I love you" all the time yet you caught her dating somebody else without your consent.

* ONE CANNOT LOVE WITHOUT GIVING

Does she try to please you with abstract things that you did not yet you get it from her? If she truly loves you, then she will find out what you want in a creative way and try to make sure that you get it. It could come in small gifts small gifts such as books related to your interests, a small gadget or any stuff. Without involving cash, it could be a kiss on the cheek that you longed for. It is something that has impact on you that come in small packages that make both of you happy.

* LOVE IS LIBERATING

If your girl clings to you constantly, turning your gazes only to her, does not want you to even use the computer other than checking your email, gets angry when you overlooked her birthday, and wants all attention focused on her, then you will end up feeling exhausted in her confinement. If she wants to drive your life's goal to her interests alone, wants you to forget your loved ones, wants to see you every minute and most of all, does not want to release you when you want to get off her, then she is not truly in love with you. She is having you as a vanity.

* LOVE IS SUSTAINED BY MAINTENANCE

If she is constantly working out with you to make up for the mistakes and failures of your relationship, then it has chances of lingering and getting a wholesome journey. If it is only you, or only one of you is constantly working out to fill up the space that missing between you, then your relationship could die. You must see that she is doing the initiative with you for quality relationship.

Initially, it is only you who can judge if the relationship could be taken to its ultimate bond, which is marriage. It will take a lot of factors to know an individual based on her environment and social heredity. It is immaterial to have evidence if the person truly loves you just for personal satisfaction. Most of the time, it is a combination of opposite feelings, which in the end you will find out in old age...that is if she is still with you.

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